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Pastor Chris White says to all of you: HELLO MY FRIENDS. May the Lord bless you today.
HOLA MIS AMIGOS. Que el Señor los bendiga.
Some prayers feel safe. Others feel dangerous or very costly—in the best possible way. Paul’s prayer in Philippians 1:9–11 belongs in the second category. It’s the kind of prayer that sounds lovely when read aloud and then quietly, as you pray and ponder, rearranges your life when God actually answers it.
“And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment, so that you may approve what is excellent, and so be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God.”
Paul isn’t praying for comfort, success, or even protection (my favorite prayer requests!). He’s praying for deep transformation. And the good news is this: God loves to answer prayers like this.
Love Abounding (But Not the Kind on Yard Signs)
We live in a cultural moment where a popular shibboleth says, “Love Wins.” The sentiment is kind-hearted, and it’s right to reject cruelty, hatred, and prejudice. Gratuitous hostility has never improved a society or healed a single soul.
But the slogan is also misleading.
Biblical love is never vague or boundaryless. Love in Scripture is committed to truth, goodness, and the real flourishing of others—even when that requires honesty, limits, or uncomfortable conversations. I have been told many times, “A person can’t help who they fall in love with!” To which I reply that not controlling who I love has predictably destructive results. Think broken families, broken trust, scandal, and offense. A “Love that wins” is not merely affirming; it is formative. It is self-controlled in the strength of grace. It wants the best for everyone, not just what feels best to me.
Paul doesn’t pray that the Philippians would feel more loving. He prays that their love will grow, deepen, and mature.
The Shape of God’s Love
The word Paul uses for love is agapē—the committed, covenantal love God has for us. This is love that always seeks our good. It is warm and generous, but never careless with truth or holiness.
God does not love us by forgiving us and then leaving us unchanged. His love redeems us and remakes us.
This is the kind of love Paul wants to expand in the church. Not soft sentimentality. Not harsh correctness. But Christ-shaped love—strong enough to tell the truth and tender enough to carry one another through it. Some of my warmest memories of being part of a Christian community could have easily been just the opposite. The reason they were sweet was that the “truth-teller” came from a sense of love and concern for what was best for me and spoke it kindly. That’s how God treats people.
Overflowing the Container
When Paul says love should abound “more and more,” he uses a word that means constantly overflowing its container. Picture pouring water into a glass that just keeps expanding as it fills. No ceiling. No finish line.
Christian love is not static. If it isn’t growing, it’s shrinking.
Paul prays that our capacity to love would keep stretching—toward difficult people, complicated situations, and costly obedience. And it will stretch if we cooperate with the Holy Spirit.
Love With Knowledge and Discernment
Overflowing love must be accompanied by knowledge and discernment.
Knowledge here isn’t knowing Bible facts and doctrines (though those matter). It’s relational, lived knowledge that comes from walking with God. John Wesley was an Oxford-trained scholar who knew Scripture deeply—and yet later realized he knew about God but did not truly know God. When that relationship ignited, it caught his soul on fire.
Discernment is the ability to perceive what’s really going on—to see the heart of the matter. Some days we see clearly; other days we miss the obvious entirely. Many of us need the wisdom and perspective of others because discernment grows best in community. I recently spent a morning with a group of Christian leaders who came from a variety of ethnic and sociological backgrounds. I must admit I was quite challenged by some of their perspectives, yet I sensed the Spirit of God was speaking to me and that these other points of view were truly vital to my understanding.
Love needs eyes. And ears. And humility.
Choosing What Is Excellent
All of this has a purpose: “so that you may approve what is excellent.”
This isn’t about choosing between obvious good and obvious evil. If you can’t do that, there is other work you need to do. It’s about learning to choose the best among many good options. The world is full of counterfeits—things that look good, feel good, and distract just enough to pull us away from discipleship.
The enemy of our souls is a master of subtlety. If he can’t lure you with outright evil, he’ll gladly settle for distraction. (A fair diagnostic question here: what dominates your mind most days—algorithms or Scripture?)
Approving what is excellent means choosing what truly forms us into Christlikeness, not merely what fills time or grabs attention. I’ve noticed that this choice rarely aligns with the path of least resistance.
Pure and Blameless Before Our Coming King
Paul prays that our lives would be pure and blameless as we await Christ’s return.
“Pure” carries the idea of without wax. In the ancient world, wax was used to hide cracks in clay pottery. A wise buyer would hold a piece up to the sunlight to see if flaws were being concealed. Purity means living without hidden fractures—no areas we feel compelled to cover up.
“Blameless” means not becoming a stumbling block to others. Our lives teach, whether we intend them to or not. Paul calls us to live carefully, aware that our choices affect the faith and conscience of those around us. Sometimes agape means setting aside our privileges and preferences as to not stumble another.
Filled, Not Patched
Notice the contrast. Paul does not pray that our cracks would be skillfully hidden. He prays that we would be filled with the fruit of righteousness—fruit that comes through Jesus Christ living in us.
This is not self-improvement. It’s transformation. Christ fills what we could never fix.
And the result is praise—not for us, but for God, who redeems, restores, and reshapes his people.
Action Points: Praying This Prayer Into Practice
- Pray this passage slowly for yourself
Don’t rush it. Let each phrase search you before moving to the next. - Ask where your love needs to grow
Toward whom has your heart grown small, guarded, or tired? - Examine your inputs
What is shaping your thinking most—Scripture, or whatever the algorithm serves next? - Invite trusted voices into your discernment
Where might you need perspective outside your own instincts? - Check for wax
Are there cracks you’re trying to hide instead of areas you’re letting Christ fill? - Choose one “excellent” thing this week
Not just a good thing—a best thing that draws you closer to Christ.
This is a prayer God delights to answer—because it makes us more like his Son.
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